Flirty or Friendly?

Let’s play a little game. Consider the two following COMPLETELY HYPOTHETICAL situations and decide: is this flirty or friendly?

COMPLETELY HYPOTHETICAL Situation #1: You work in an office where the social circles tend to be very clique-y and keep to themselves. You’re in the cafeteria, helping yourself to a coffee, when someone behind you says “hi”.  Since there’s other people around also getting coffee, you assume it’s meant for someone else, but after a couple seconds and hearing no reply back, you look up to see a guy staring at you. You’ve seen him around the office, but you have no idea who he is and he definitely doesn’t work in your department. There are a few traits about him that are setting off your gaydar, but you ignore them. You politely address him and silently go back to preparing your caffeine fix for the morning. Instead of doing the same, he begins to strike up a conversation about the coffee you’re making yourself and even offers you help. You tell him you’re cutting back on caffeine and that’s why you’re adding some decaf, and you can’t help but laugh a little inside when he offers you some cream. But by now, you’re also super confused, since 1) you don’t know this guy, and 2) since people rarely talk to each other outside their social circles, you start to question his intentions. While you’re contemplating this, one of his co-workers greets him, and you slip back to your desk to start your morning.      

COMPLETELY HYPOTHETICAL Situation #2: You and a couple of your friends are running late for dinner with your buddy, his girlfriend, and some of her friends. Upon arriving, sitting at the table is this hot blond guy you know from a couple previous outings. Despite not knowing each other well, every time you’ve been out with him before he seems to take an interest in you and begins by chatting you up personally, and tonight is no exception. He begins chatting you up as soon as you sit down, and amongst other things, you both realize you went to the same middle school and high school together. Throughout the night, he’s pretty friendly and chatty in a group and is often leading the conversation, but for the most part he doesn’t really seem to talk much with the people he doesn’t know, aside from you. He even pays you a few compliments along the way. You start to think about how playful he is with you: he’s dared you to race him once while ice skating, and asked you to time your shot with his while bowling before. You’re a little disappointed when someone asks him about his “lady friend”, but ever-so slightly relieved when he seems to get embarrassed about it and mumbles something about how they still sort of talk, but on a less frequent basis. At the end of the night, you can’t help but wonder why this guy is being so friendly to you and not some of the others you’re with.  

So what do you say: Flirty or friendly?